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Throughout this process, I experienced a spectrum of feelings that ranged from validation to nagging self-doubt. I often times felt foolish and child-like in situations where my feminine attire seemed impractical. I redeveloped complexes about everything from my weight to my ankles. I become conscious of the income earned that was spent on feminine maintenance. I only resisted for a week or so before I found comfort in conforming. People were nice to me when I smiled or demurred. I received compliments. What was a nebulous concept in my personal life become crystallized: Pretty is a physical and mental state of being. I also spent the month talking with other women about their feminine maintenance. The conversation would begin with the confusing axiom that femininity is necessary and innate, and so too are the measures one takes to achieve it. As one woman remarked, “It’s just what you do.” Another woman said she enjoyed the time she takes to become beautiful—it’s “time spent on me”. However, when some women started to verbally dissect everything they do to create the appearance they find most acceptable, they were often startled, overwhelmed or just plain exhausted. When the mechanics of their beauty ritual was laid bare, there was a defeated realization that their ability to exist as merely human beings did not need to hinge on their feminine maintenance. It was their gendered experience that was dependent on their willingness and ability to perform “woman” in their daily lives. Every Woman is Patty Hearst Femininity is a survival tactic that allows us—as social creatures—to participate in a civilized, capitalistic, patriarchal, heteronormative society. Society forces us to desire protection, procreation and wealth under terms we don’t define for ourselves. To this end, women who perform femininity are given greater access to employment, romantic companionship, peer acceptance and inclusion. In exchange for permission to live in a societal structure they did not create, women who follow the rules experience low self-esteem, poor body image, physical discomfort, harassment and the threat of rape. Similarly, women who outright refuse to, or cannot conform are often ostracized from mainstream society, running the risk of the same threats, but without the “benefit” of patriarchal acceptance. Women are captive regardless of how or if we resist. The Federal Bureau of Investigation’s study of Stockholm syndrome finds: “In cases where Stockholm syndrome has occurred, the captive is in a situation where the captor has stripped nearly all forms of independence and gained control of the victim’s life, as well as basic needs for survival. Some experts say that the hostage regresses to, perhaps, a state of infancy; the captive must cry for food, remain silent, and exist in an extreme state of dependence….The victim then begins a struggle for survival, both relying on and identifying with the captor. Possibly, hostages’ motivation to live outweighs their impulse to hate the person who created their dilemma.” In order to survive, women internalize the message of the dominant culture and learn to rely on it and identify with the standards set for us. Women become adherents and enforcers of femininity. We defend it against those who question its validity. Women don’t question the body torture that is feminine maintenance. We willingly participate in a cycle of ceaseless self-scrutiny. We insist that we mutilate and modify our bodies because it makes us feel good. We do it because we have to and that it’s good for our well-being. (Consider how retailers pair health with beauty in their product categories.) We do it because we can’t fathom anything else. Femininity, in its practice, is both consistent and ever-changing. The practical applications of femininity are cyclical and part of the effort in being feminine is adapting to how it changes with each season, generation, social, technological or other human advancement. What remains constant is the power femininity has to keep women positioned as the default sex class; a state in which women’s status is defined only in terms of our implied consent, sexuality, sexual capacity and sexual availability. Femininity has implications beyond gender expression. How a woman performs feminine codes is influenced by her socio-economic status, racial and ethnic identity, physical ability and size. The farther one is removed from dominant culture ideals, the harder it is to perform femininity and thus survive in a mainstream context. Maintenance vs. Creation “Do you want me to be pretty, or do you want me to be on time?” Maria Miranda
View photos of the dinner & exhibition in the gallery.
Saturday, October 23 | 7:00pm | Visible Voice Books |
This month only: $3 admission We are pleased to host She Speaks, a monthly, themed spoken word and works-in-progress event. The purpose of She Speaks is to give women an opportunity to network, commune and test new and first time work in a public forum (including first time writers). We are all writers! We have all kept journals, diaries and written letters. Some of us may be songwriters testing out new lyrics. It is about the power of the written word being spoken, heard and enjoyed.
NEW for October!
Stand up. Speak out: Take Back the Night 2010
Click here for the printable pdf.
QWERTY Observation #1
QWERTY Observation #2 In Western culture, we consider eye contact a signal of strength, a means of connection, initiation of challenge. It takes on the quality of masculinity and in turn gives credibility and the spoils of victory to whomever can hold the contact the longest. Lovers gaze into each other's eyes, opponents use eye contact for mind games, handshakes are sealed with locked eyes. In situations with power differentials, eye contact from the subordinate is not encouraged because eye contact elevates one's position. Averting one's gaze when confronted with a direct stare is read as a form of surrender. Lies are often discovered when one feels the speaker did not meet eyes. It's been shown that we can't tell lies while maintaining eye contact and therefore, good liars can tell a fib and stare you in the face. Overall, while we value eye contact, there is often discomfort with direct eye contact. Perhaps this is because it intensifies, for good or bad, the conversation. So, what happens when we communicate screen-to-screen rather than face-to-face? How do we know that "I love you" is sincere? That the agreement is sealed and transparent? That we're not being deceived? Do eyes lose the value humans have given them for thousands of years with technology's growing role in our communication? Between blinking cursors and LED displays, what becomes the "window to our souls"?
QWERTY Observation #3
QWERTY premieres September 24-26 at Ingenuity Festival. See you on the bridge.
Saturday, August 14, 2010 | 7:30-10pm | Visible Voice Books, Tremont | FREE Whisper to a Scream is pleased to host the fourth installment of She Speaks, a monthly, themed spoken word and works-in-progress event at Visible Voice Books. The purpose of She Speaks is to give women an opportunity to network, commune and test new and first time work in a public forum (including first time writers). All levels of experience (including none!) are welcome. The event is FREE and open to the public.
This month's theme is 'music'. We will feature live music to start off the evening. The evening will begin with a feature performer at 7:30pm followed by an all female open mic. Please use the theme "music" as an inspiration for creating your work, you may also share work outside the theme.
Angelisa Crognale of Early Girl & Maura Rogers are August's features.
Angelisa Crognale Angelisa Crognale has been singing for Cleveland audiences since 2004. Starting solo with just an acoustic guitar and a small repertoire of humorous songs she began her musical journey. Looking for a band all along, she and two friends created a folk trio in 2005 called Slackjaw. The trio was a hit thrilling audiences citywide with harmony-rich sweet Americana cover songs and folky, yet raunchy original material. Then in 2007 the group morphed into local rock band, Early Girl, with an all electric line-up and a larger than life sound. The band has gone through many changes over the past few years, but is now stronger than ever with a grab bag full of unique original material. Angelisa still enjoys getting back to her roots and performing solo as a singer-songwriter. It is a fun way for her to refine her skills as a singer, performer and guitar player.
Maura Rogers Born, raised, and surviving some brutal Cleveland winters, Maura Rogers has gained a reputation of being “five pounds woman, eight pounds voice.” Her appeal lies greatly in her commanding vocal abilities, her knack for turning a phrase, and her delicate acoustic finger-picking.. Threads of Stevie Nicks, Amy Ray, Bruce Springsteen, Ani DiFranco, and Patti Griffin are heard in both her lyrical phrasing and vocal styling. She’s drawn in a generous local audience over the past two years, opening and sharing stages with the talented Erin McKeown, Ember Swift, Rosi Golan, Michelle Malone, Alec Stewart, Nina Camps, Steph Taylor and Cleveland’s own Anne E DeChant, Early Girl, Alexis Antes, and Robin Stone. Maura Rogers’ first full-length album, “Get Up Girl” was released in June of 2010. Jeff Niesel, of Cleveland SCENE, writes “the album features a sparse Cat Power-like sound, showing of Rogers’ quiet, but powerful vocals.” Maura spent her summer traveling the East Coast, hitting coffee shops and open mics along the way in an effort to share her music outside of Cleveland. She is currently in the process of planning a MidWest Tour this Fall/Winter.
Saturday, July 10, 2010 | 7:30-9:30pm | Visible Voice Books, Tremont | FREE Visible Voice is pleased to host Whisper to a Scream: a feminist performance art collective, as they present She Speaks, a monthly, themed spoken word and works-in-progress event. The purpose of She Speaks is to give women an opportunity to network, commune and test new and first time work in a public forum (including first time writers). We are all writers! We have all kept journals, diaries and written letters. Some of us may be song writers testing out new lyrics. It is about the power of the written word being spoken, heard and enjoyed.
The theme this month is 'renewal'. All levels of experience are welcome. The format will be open mic: come early and sign up for a time slot. Also, take advantage of several in store promotions including discounted books and a raffle for wine and/or a gift certificate!
Denise Astorino is July's feature. She will be performing Her Mind's Eye:
A Dozen Things I Want To Do On Stage is a new one-woman cabaret by Rebecca Nagle. Of the dozen, Nagle will undress to "Wenn Ich Mir Was Wünschen Dürfte", fit in a small box, tell your secrets, discuss why something is racist, fall in love, read her fantasies, act out your fantasies, induce a tragedy, fall down, take truth serum while letting the audience ask her questions, tell a tall tale, and disembowel herself. Visit Rebecca Nagle's website for more information.
Saturday, May 29, 2010 | 7-10 pm | Visible Voice Books, Tremont | FREE Whisper to a Scream: a feminist performance art collective, is pleased to present She Speaks, a new monthly, themed spoken word and works-in-progress event. This event will be held at Visible Voice Books in Tremont, located at 1023 Kenilworth, from 7-10 pm in their outdoor courtyard. The format will be open mic: come early and sign up for a time slot (about every 5 minutes). All levels of experience are welcome. Wine, coffee and hot tea will be available for purchase. Seating is very limited and will be mostly standing room. For more information please contact the organizer, Shelly A. Gracon-Nagy. The purpose of She Speaks is to give women an opportunity to network, commune and test new and first time work in a public forum. This month's theme is 'soul'. Bring your own poetry or short stories about 'soul' to read aloud, or those of a favorite author. Or come to simply relax and enjoy the experience.
Celebrate Mother’s Day with Signed, Sealed, Delivered: Letters on Motherhood
Friday, April 9, 2010 | 7-9 pm | Visible Voice Books, Tremont | FREE Whisper to a Scream: a feminist performance art collective, is pleased to present She Speaks, a new monthly, themed spoken word and works-in-progress event. The debut of this event will be held at Visible Voice Books in Tremont, located at 1023 Kenilworth, from 7-9 pm in their upstairs meeting room during ArtWalk. The format will be open mic: come early and sign up for a time slot (about every 5 minutes). All levels of experience are welcome. The theme this month is ‘healing’. Wine, coffee and hot tea will be available for purchase. Seating is very limited and will be mostly standing room. For more information please contact the organizer, Shelly A. Gracon-Nagy. The purpose of She Speaks is to give women an opportunity to network, commune and test new and first time work in a public forum. This month's theme is 'healing'. Bring your own poetry or short stories about 'healing' to read aloud, or those of a favorite author. Or come to simply relax and enjoy the experience. We will be featuring two area poets, Kisha Nicole Foster of Black Poetic Society and Tru Poetry. Kisha was born in Germany and raised in Cleveland. Known to some as "Poet of the People," she has been a member of the Cleveland Classic slam team and was honored in 2006 by Writers & Their Friends as one of the top 25 writers in Cleveland. Her work was recently anthologized in Cleveland Poetry Scenes (Bottom Dog Press, 2008). She has performed at such venues as The Lit Center, B-Sides, The Underground, The Humidor, The Cleveland Museum of Art and Cleveland State University. Kisha’s style is both raw and energetic. Tru Poetry has performed at The University of Toledo, Scott High School in Toledo, the Writing Wrongs in Columbus, B Side Liquor Lounge in Coventry, Case Western Reserve University, Word Play Wednesdays, The Olive Twist, The Grog Shop and the Cleveland Museum of Art. She feels her creator has called her to write, recite and heal with her words. She plans to do so right up until he calls her home.
Microscopes & Megaphones is a collaborative project that uses dance, theatre, audio and visual arts to explore "the problem that has no name" plaguing the modern woman today. With progress made in reproductive choice, education, the workplace and at home, the modern Western woman's oppression manifests itself through subtlety, innuendo and the places you least expect.
The Review of Microscopes & Megaphones by Sarah Valek: Feminism has come a long way, but there's still plenty of work to be done. Even though women have made strides in reproductive choice, education and the workplace, females are still held back by widespread uncertainty, timidness or by being perceived as "too fat to love" (or too this or too that...).
We want to thank Cleveland Public Theatre and everyone who came out to support Microscopes&Megaphones. The feedback from women has been tremendous and we know we're moving in the right direction.
Here are some choice words from attendees: "Tagging on this email to tell you how much I enjoyed last friday night's M & M performance. It's the first time i've ever seen you take center stage and I enjoyed every minute of the quartet which will go nameless in my work generated email. But like so much of the show, your four took us on a brave journey, full out, not holds barred...into uncharted waters. I don't think one person (okay maybe ONE but no one i was sitting near) did not get taken in from the first moment and go along for the entire ride, and I'm talking fighting over the front seat of the roller coaster - hands in the air - eyes wide open - laughing all the way. Awesome."
"Last weekend some work friends and I attended the Saturday performance of 'Microphones and Megaphones.' This was a first for the three women who accompanied me, comprised of two nurses and a social worker. To my delight, they have not stopped speaking about their experience, how surprised they were at the quality of the perfomances, and the content given the surprising low cost of the tickets. All have vowed to return to CPT for additional offerings. What most surprised me was their response to your announcement about the ticket sales going to Preterm. From two devout catholics and one lapsed Baptist, I expected some bristling. They were outspoken in their support of CPT's generostity. You are to be commended for continuing to offer a venue for local writers and artists, taking a public stand in support of women's issues, and maintaining a quality theatre."
"..So, that was fucking glorious. You accomplished something to be proud of, a level of polish and ease that was far above what I imagined. You brought this work to life with a sweetness and sincerity. Seeing these voices become bodies become ensemble pumped me full of joy, set my heart off like a rocket. Having you tell this story back to me made me feel like I can do fucking anything. I got EMPOWERED. We collaborated in a deeply feminist adventure and put a girl-on-girl love story, complete with a live sex act, on public display as credible high art. Yeah, that happened, that revolution got told. This was actual real witchy magic, to bless the people with that spell. You know that quote, "If a woman told the truth about her life the world would split open"? Telling our stories, the whole tender funny awkward luscious tale, is the sharpest tool we have to dismantle patriarchy. You did this play. It shifted the world an increment further toward its better self. Truth."
"Bravo! The show was a success! Thought provoking and humorous! Looking forward to seeing more of your feminist collaboration!"
"...thanks for bringing feminism back to the stage in Cleveburg. We love you and we applaud you. You ROCK."
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